My journey to parenthood led me to the inside of fertility clinics. I’ve sat in the waiting room while heartbroken women uncontrollably sobbed at their inability to have a baby. Witnessing that pain first-hand was one of the saddest experiences of my life.
So, when I read CluelessActress (not a medical professional or a scientific researcher but a f*cking actress) write in her book that essentially what a woman really needs to do to have a baby is forego fertility treatments and simply improve her diet because then babies will magically fall out of her vagina 9-months later I want to scream.
CluelessActress criticizes implanting more than one embryo during IVF, blaming this practice on doctors simply wanting to improve their success rates. When you’re a rich, out-of-touch actress you can make that claim because you can afford endless rounds of IVF. But, real, everyday folks don’t have an endless supply of wealth, meaning there’s a limit to the number of IVF treatments they can afford. So, they opt for techniques that provide the best odds for a pregnancy and often times that means implanting more than one embryo.
I wonder if rich CluelessActress, who could afford numerous rounds of IVF if she so desired, has ever bothered to advocate for a law requiring that medical insurance cover IVF. If IVF treatments were covered, then we could switch to a practice of implanting one embryo because couples wouldn’t be faced with the reality of money constraints. But, I guess that type of advocacy work would be harder than writing a book in which you lecture people who have real-world financial constraints.
You can also hear Clueless Actress’ judgmental, self-righteous fertility privilege rolling right off her tongue onto the tips of her fingers when she writes:
Is it impressive that we’ve achieved the technology to create babies in women who maybe can’t get pregnant? Sure. But just how far should we take it? And what if we spent all the time and money it took to create that technology and actually taught people how to get well?
I’ll tell you what would happen. We’d still have many women unable to have a baby and many of the wonderful, delightful children that are alive today wouldn’t f*cking be here.
And, to fully insult infertile couples CluelessActress relies on the classic, ever-stupid “relax” advice when she writes,
Eat well, get healthy, then ditch all the planning and trying and just let it flow. There’s no better way to make a baby than with yummy, soulful sex!
You know what will flow if you just do the “relax” thing? Your chances of achieving a pregnancy - right down the drain.
If you’re not a medical researcher, a physician specializing in infertility, or haven’t endured the pain of infertility, then your unsupportive voice really isn’t needed on this topic. All you do is add more pain to an already painful process and that’s not only clueless but also downright mean.